Monthly Archives: January 2015

Ugh!! I can’t believe that I….

Stop!!

Whatever it is you can’t believe:

  • “I can’t believe I ate 125 cookies, 16 pieces of cake, 87 pieces of fudge, and drank 16 glasses of eggnog this holiday season…”
  • “I can’t believe I gained 20 lbs. last year.”
  • I can’t believe I started smoking again.”
  • I can’t believe I took that drink last night… and the next one… and all the rest after that.”
  • “I can’t believe I said those words to that person I love.”
  • “I can’t believe I am such a loser.”

Stop that.

Now, forget for a moment that you are you, and imagine that you are your best friend, the one who loves you most in the world.  Imagine your friend looking into your eyes and saying, “I love you. You are wonderful and I love you, value you, and cherish you.”

Take time, right now. Close your eyes and imagine this. Once you have this picture in your mind, lock it there, and take a moment every day and re-imagine that image.

The most important thing you can do for yourself, especially when you are trying to make a change, is to remember how precious you are, and that each moment, each new day, is an opportunity to change.  It doesn’t matter if you just crushed out a cigarette. That’s done. What matters is right now, and tomorrow.

If you overindulged during the holidays – I know I did – well, you should take time during the holiday to enjoy the sweets to celebrate the sweetness of your labor throughout the year.  Do you look at your friend and say “OMG, I can’t believe you are putting that into your mouth?!!”

If you took that drink, that was yesterday, and I can help you today. If you smoked that cigarette, I can help. If you stopped working out last year, the year is gone and so is that failure.

Now it’s time to move forward.  Now is the time for your success. Everybody trips. But you are getting up and moving forward. Today. And tomorrow.

I would suggest that you not list a random litany of changes you are going to make.

Stop and think about the goals you would like to set for this year. Really think about them. Picture them. Do you want to lose weight? How much do you want to weigh? What size do you want to wear? Close your eyes. Can you see yourself at that size?  If not, keep imagining that image until you can.  And then decide to do that.

Do you want to take up painting? What kind of painting? Oils? Watercolor? Do you have a teacher? Ask your friends, or look for a teacher online.  Close your eyes. See yourself painting. See the painting hanging on your wall. Decide to learn to paint.

Change takes focus. It means keeping that image of where you want to be, what you want to be doing, how you want to be as your focus.  If your focus is on what you did yesterday that you hate, you will bring that with you into tomorrow. But if you focus on what you love, always focusing on what you want to be, you will be that.

And hypnosis can help. When you are ready to lose weight, ready to quit smoking, ready to write your novel, ready to get organized, ready to learn a new skill, ready to be a better parent, hypnosis can help.

Hypnosis isn’t magic. It is a tool. When you come to me for hypnosis, we will work together to create your picture that you will step into.  I will teach you self-hypnosis so that you can keep that focus every day. And in subsequent sessions, we will use hypnosis to work together to refine your dreams and goals to create the life you want.

And here’s a tip – free of charge 🙂 – and it’s important. EACH and EVERY time you succeed in your work toward your goal, every time you resist that sweet, every time you finish your work at the gym, every time you forgo that cigarette or that drink, I want you to mentally cheer for yourself, just as you would for a buddy. It might sound really strange to say

“Way to go, [insert your name]!!!  What a great workout you had! You are awesome!! You have been eating healthy all day! I’m so proud of you!”

But you know, you will find that saying that to yourself, patting yourself on the back just as a friend would do, will have EXACTLY the same affect as it would if your friend did it.